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Thoughts to ponder...
When you get tired of reciting the same "story" do you realise that you are in control of the characters, you are in control of each scene, and you decide how the story will end?
Clinging to our story - the reason why we are the way we are, what we lay victim to, the people who are to blame - it's all the bullshit we continue to tell ourselves to let ourselves off the hook. If we blame others, if we blame what happened "to us", it relieves us of responsibility... Well guess what... It's your story, you are the writer, you are the editor, you are the lead character, and everyone else who is a part of "your story", so when you become tired of writing it, and reciting it, and acting it out... Not to start telling a new story, but to cut the excuses and direct that energy to a life you want to live, amazing things will happen.
There are parts of your life that you can't control, but I believe there is more that you CAN influence. Small things, that add up to your moment to moment happiness, until that becomes your day to day happiness, and soon these things become unconscious, they become habit. You are without a story, without drama, and you may just be happier than you have ever been.
As we start to become more conscious of our thoughts, where our mind goes, where we direct our energy and the words that we choose to use, it is interesting to notice how we identify ourselves.
When you bump into someone after a long time and they ask "what's been happening?!" do you find yourself relaying your achievements or is it always what you perceived as the negative experiences that you recall first?
When something goes wrong during the day, or you feel unwell, or you injure yourself, do you become THAT story, retelling everyone and anyone who will listen for the rest of the day - replaying those same emotions over and over?
These emotions we attach to our circumstances do have an effect on our physical bodies, as do our thoughts - so it is critical that we start to become more aware of our behavioural patterns. Without trying to change them, first just notice them. Then notice them more frequently. From there, with more presence, there will be space in which we can respond, rather than react, choose our words, and start to live from a more loving and thoughtful space - for ourselves and also those around us.
I am not discounting traumatic events, or injuries because I too have experienced these and know how very real they can be. I've also been guilty of making them my "story"... But we are not our job title, our past relationships, our injuries or the mistakes we have made... They certainly influence who we are today, but I think it is important we accept these experiences for the impact they did have on our being and make the journey from here on in about what we HAVE learnt, what we HAVE achieved, what we CAN do...
If we start to recognise the emotions, patterns or injuries that frequently come up for us - we can start to use these as signposts in our life...
Stephan Klein say "for biological reasons, the direction given by pleasure and displeasure must aim, above all, to keep the organism in optimal condition. This is why pain almost always overrides other feelings. We are NOT supposed to ignore the signal that something isn't right"
Isn't that awesome?!
Start to recognise you patterns.
Start to notice how the words you choose, and the thoughts you pay attention to, make you feel.
Accept stress, be it in the form of pain, injury, anxiety as a signal that something is out of balance
And most importantly... Start directing your energy towards what you can control, the abilities you do have, and the people and things that bring you joy.
What will your story be?